In the gay world, there are lots of “types” of guys. You know… the slut, the closet case, the bear, the queen, etc.

But in all of our various groups there’s always at least one guy who wants to settle down. He longs to be in a long-term relationship with someone he loves. He’s tired of the casual hook-ups and the draining breakdowns. In his ideal world, he’ll kiss a lot of frogs but eventually meet The One.

But what happens after you meet The One?

Where do you turn for insight on maintaining a long-term gay relationship?

How do you know if the steps you’re taking in the relationship are the right ones?

Without social support for long-term gay relationships (we still can’t get married in most places, remember?), the challenges of fostering a healthy relationship can be frustrating—and isolating.

And that’s where this blog comes in. I hope to document the steps of my LTR: the questions, the hopes, the fantasies—and perhaps most importantly, the realities, no matter how harsh.

Here goes nothing.